Things Men Say That Sound Genuine Just To Sleep With You

[caption id="attachment_836623" align="alignleft" width="1068"] Bigstockphoto.com/Portrait of african american man on grey background with copy space. Winking, flirting, footsie.[/caption] Men who pretend to be genuine just to sleep with women are the worst ones of all. Compared to men who outwardly whisper nasty things in your ears or, worse, catcall you for everyone to hear, the faux-genuine men may seem kind and considerate to your face. But when you find that they ignore you next time you run into them (and perhaps after you’ve slept with them), or simply never follow up about lunch plans you made, you realize you actually prefer guys who put their sleaziness on the table for everyone to see. The real shame is that there are plenty of women who would be fine with a casual hookup if men stated that’s what they wanted. But some men just enjoy the sick, power high they get from making a woman believe they want more than sex and then ditching her after sex. Here are things men say to sound genuine just to sleep with women. [caption id="attachment_701653" align="alignleft" width="420"] Shutterstock[/caption]

They open up about past relationships

Wow—a man who is willing to talk about mistakes he’s made in past relationships, and lessons he’s learned about love. That certainly seems like he is willing to emotionally connect, right? And since he is talking about having been in relationships, clearly he can be in relationships, isn’t that the case? That’s exactly what this guy is hoping you’ll think. You know how men who are in relationships are instantly more attractive because some woman wants them? The guy in the above scenario is counting on that dynamic, but he’s just referencing an old relationship to help him out.       [caption id="attachment_720945" align="alignleft" width="414"] Shutterstock[/caption]

They compliment you on your work ethic

Since you’re so used to men just going on and on about your looks, it’s refreshing when a man points out that you’re quick-witted, that you seem to think well on your toes, that you’re sharp and you seem to understand people well. He hasn’t even mentioned your long legs or full lips even once! That must be genuine. But if you stopped your ego from getting away from you for a moment, you’d realize there is no way this man could really know that you’re sharp or quick-witted through a five-minute conversation. He just knows that if he doesn’t mention your body, you’re more likely to give it to him.       [caption id="attachment_610724" align="alignleft" width="422"] Shutterstock[/caption]

They “admire” you and your best friend’s friendship

Aaw. A guy who can appreciate a close friendship is so sweet! And this guy has been raving about how you and your girlfriend, who you came to the bar with, just seem so connected. He thinks you guys have awesome banter. He says it’s so fun to watch such good friends interact and that he wishes he had a best friend like that. You know what this guy just did? He disarmed your protector (your friend). He’s flattering your friend, too, so she won’t tell you not to go home with him.         [caption id="attachment_702871" align="alignleft" width="425"] Shutterstock[/caption]

They open up about their family

Some men don’t mind getting really personal in order to get laid. They’ll tell you about their stepfather’s addiction, their complicated relationship with their mother since she’s had three husbands, and their tumultuous childhood. It’s really no skin off their back since they never plan on seeing you again. The more a guy tells you about his family upfront, the less he plans on ever introducing you to them.             [caption id="attachment_607184" align="alignleft" width="500"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

“I feel a connection”

Women are very keen on connection, vibe and energy. So men who pretend to be genuine to sleep with women use those words. When a man actually feels a connection with you, he doesn’t tend to state it out loud. He plans on taking you on real dates, spending real time with you, and showing you that connection rather than calling it out. But men who just want to sleep with you need to fake it, and just pronounce a connection rather than putting in the work to show one.       [caption id="attachment_711204" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

They were “drawn to you immediately”

But of course. Doesn’t everyone want to believe they have some pull about them? And isn’t it natural to think that if a man felt that pull that he must understand you, on some deeper level? The only thing that drew this man to you was the fact that you made eye contact for a second, have breasts, and don’t seem to have a date. This line is total BS.           [caption id="attachment_626517" align="alignleft" width="427"] Corbis[/caption]

“I think we could be good together”

It sounds like he means good together as a couple, and that’s what he hopes you hear. But what he really means is good together in bed. Of course, you’re not going to ask him to specify, and he knows it. So later, when you’re yelling at him for not calling after he said you’d be good together he can say, “And we were. For a night.”           [caption id="attachment_620940" align="alignleft" width="500"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

They gush about their dog

Men know women are suckers for dogs. And if he talks about his deep connection with his dog, it makes you think, “Wow. This guy can really appreciate a strong bond with someone.” Yes, but the dog isn’t wondering when he’ll pop the question or hoping to be introduced to his family. That’s really an easy, no-strings-attached bond. And you may be thinking, “Wow. If he can take care of a dog, he can really commit.” Sure. But committing to his dog doesn’t stop him from sleeping with lots of women. In fact, it helps him do just that. [caption id="attachment_135661" align="alignleft" width="400"] Source: Thinkstock[/caption]

They gush about their niece/nephew

He must be so family-oriented. He must want children of his own one day. He must be so caring and nurturing. These are some of the things you may think when a man pulls up a dozen photos of him snuggling with his niece. But don’t forget that he gets to pop in and out of that niece’s life anytime he wants—just as he will with you. Again, most men who are serious about finding a relationship hold off on sharing a lot of information about their family.     [caption id="attachment_607561" align="alignleft" width="500"] Credit: Shutterstock[/caption]

They talk about their volunteer work

It is very nice that this guy volunteers at an afterschool center and runs a creative writing workshop for inner city kids. And it’s quite sweet that he walks dogs at a shelter. But when someone brags about all the good things they do, they kind of erase some of the good. If he really were just in it to help out, he wouldn’t talk about it after. This guy is just hoping to volunteer…in your pants. Apologies for the terrible joke.             [caption id="attachment_616985" align="alignleft" width="406"] Shutterstock[/caption]

They offer to save you from the other guys

The man who offers to sit with you so that other men won’t hit on you seems so thoughtful and considerate. How chivalrous, right? Oh, and he’s offering to buy you drinks, so that it looks to other men like you’re on a date, so they won’t bother you. My, my. He’s quite committed to this bit. Oh, and now he’s trying to make out with you, to keep other men from bothering you. How selfless of him.           [caption id="attachment_699995" align="alignleft" width="468"] Shutterstock[/caption]

“You’re the only interesting woman here”

Sometimes, men rely on your pride and your sense of competition with other women to get in your pants. Men know how single bars can be for women. They know we put a lot of time into getting ready, only to arrive and feel like we disappear in a sea of gorgeous women. So this guy strikes, just when you were feeling like nobody saw you, and makes his move.             [caption id="attachment_625309" align="alignleft" width="420"] Shutterstock[/caption]

He talks about future plans you’d enjoy

He mentions a cabin he visits every year in Lake Tahoe, a little authentic Ethiopian restaurant in his neighborhood and his favorite dog park. He keeps saying things like, “You’d love it” and “I bet it’s just your thing.” It almost feels like he’s making plans with you…But you do know he didn’t actually just pull up his calendar, get out his credit card, and reserve anything online, right?           [caption id="attachment_702843" align="alignleft" width="419"] Shutterstock[/caption]

He confesses about his dreams and goals

There are few things more attractive than a man who is passionate and ambitious in his career. That’s why some guys will lay out their five-year-plan for you at a bar, share their strategies for moving ahead and talk about what their work means to them. It’s so impressive. Or is it just a way for them to talk about themselves for an hour, under the guise of “opening up?” I mean, when this conversation is over, does this man actually know anything about you? Nope.         [caption id="attachment_702372" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

He offers to help you make professional connections

He lists off every high-profile person he knows in your industry, and casually offers to introduce you. Some time. No specific time. But some time. Some day. Some place. You can talk about that later—at his place. How convenient.

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